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    lesson learned - worst ever
brent carl
The other day I was sitting on my couch, eating some chips, drinking some soda, and watching re-runs of Saturday Night Live. One of my all-time favorite sketches came on, one with the late Chris Farley. It was the sketch where he is the host of his own show called the “Chris Farley Show.” In the sketch, he interviews famous guests. The only problem is that he is extremely nervous about interviewing them and always asks such obvious questions that you just laugh because it’s so stupid.
For instance, he had Michael Jordan on one of the shows and he asked questions like “Remember that time you played basketball for the Bulls?” Jordan said, “Yeah, I remember that.” And Farley says something like, “You were awesome!” Then another time he had Arnold Schwarzenegger on and said something like, “Remember that time you were in Terminator?” Arnold is like “Yeah, I remember that.” Farley adds, “And remember that time you yelled, ‘Get down?’ That was awesome!”
The dialogue is like that throughout the show, and usually ends up with Farley’s famous line from that sketch, ”Aw, I’m SO STUPID!” Then the guest usually encourages him and says “It’s okay, Chris. Thanks for having me on your show.”
As I watched that show, I laughed and laughed. It reminded me of what it’s like when we try to serve God in our own power. Everything looks good, we say the right things, quote the right scripture, reference the right authors or whatever, but without God’s power doing His thing in people’s lives, we end up like Chris Farley with our hands brushing our hair down over our eyes in disgust saying, “Aw, I’m so stupid!”
I like to call those moments the “worst ever” moments in ministry, and believe me I’ve got plenty!
The thing that has always amazed me though, is that the times when I delivered a message, taught a class, organized a retreat, or did something in ministry that I thought was a “worst ever,” are the ones that people usually point to as being moments that touched their hearts, changed their lives, or at least made them pause and consider what God wanted them to hear.
Why is that? I’m learning that God doesn’t need me to be funny, interesting, captivating or really anything other than obedient and faithful to what He’s called me to do. He’ll do the rest and touch people’s lives in the ways He chooses. That really takes the pressure off, because it’s all about Him and His work, not me and my Skills.
As I sat there and watched SNL, I was reminded of at least four “worst ever” moments in my youth ministry career that God took and, despite me, used in people’s lives. I was saying, “Aw, I’m so stupid, that was awful” afterwards, but God took my ineptitude and used it for His glory. He’s cool like that.
Well, here they are in no particular order. The four “worst ever” moments in my youth ministry career. (At least four that come to mind as I’m writing—there are many more where these came from.)
1. Muscle Relaxer Message: I hurt my back really bad a couple days prior to having to deliver a week’s worth of messages at a youth week. My back was in so much pain that on Saturday and Sunday of that week I was flat out—I couldn’t move. The doctor gave me some muscle relaxers, and told me to take them to alleviate the pain. What he failed to mention was that they alleviate the pain all right, but they also tend to slur your speech, and basically make you appear like your drunk or high. (A key piece of information that would have been helpful.) I took the pills about 30 minutes before speaking and when I opened my mouth to speak, I sounded like I had just downed a bottle of Jack Daniels and stepped onto the stage to deliver God’s Word. ”Hellllooo everuhbuddy, I’m sooo hick-up happy to beeee heeer today.” It was awful! Now I’ve never been drunk or high, but I can imagine that that’s what it felt like, and how I came across. I was happy to get done with my message. At the end I had a bunch of “Farley Moments,” and felt totally inadequate until some students shared how God had used the message to cause them to ponder where their lives were headed. Hmmm, worst ever or God’s power using my inadequacies?
2. 4am Message: I was on the planning committee for an area-wide all-nighter retreat. Why we ever planned the Bible sharing time at 4am is beyond me, but that’s when it was, and I was the speaker. Maybe it was the bowling or the skating or the extreme mini-golf, I’m not totally sure, but whatever it was, the audience was less than alert when it came time for me to deliver God’s Word. Even after three Mountain Dews, two Starbucks, and a Red Bull, I was less than perky as well. It was a disaster—so I thought. Until some students called me later and woke me up to say how God had used the talk to help them answer some questions they had about God’s love. Hmmm, worst ever or God using my inadequacies?
3. Don't Worry Be Prayerful: It was 1989; Bobby McFerrin had a huge hit (albeit a one hit wonder) with “Don’t Worry be Happy.” As I was preparing to speak at a camp in Michigan, I found myself in Philippians reading the passage that says: “Don’t be anxious about anything but in all things through prayer bring your requests to God.” I wanted to be hip, relevant, encouraging, and Biblically accurate—all at the same time. So I did what any acid washed jeans and mullet wearing youth leader in the 80’s would do—I lip synched “Don’t Worry Be Happy”, and then turned the volume down just in time to say “Be Prayerful” instead of be happy. Ughhh, what a humiliation that was. Kids were laughing, joking, and whistling the tune for the next week at camp. I thought it was a bomb, until, you guessed it—”Pastor Brent, I’ve been thinking a lot about what you’ve been speaking about, and I need to give my life to God and His ways instead of my ways.” Hmmm, worst ever or God using my inadequacies?
4. Scum Bag Message: Yep, all I can say is I said something like this, ”To God, our sin is like scum, He hates it. He can’t stand it. He provided a way for us to get rid of it thorough His Son, Jesus. Jesus came to save a scum bag like me, and He came to save a scum bag like you!” A few of the kids didn’t take too kindly to being called a scum bag (especially when I pointed at them when I said it. It wasn’t on purpose, it was the Holy Spirit guiding my pointer—ha, ha). They left the service as I was speaking, and were very upset. Their mom called me the next week and chewed me out. Long story short, I explained what I meant and how I didn’t point them out in particular. They started coming to my youth group, and got plugged in big time and became some of my core student leaders. As time went by, they even become adult youth leaders as well. Hmmm, worst ever or God using my inadequacies?
Those are just a few examples of what God can do with our meager attempts as well as our best-laid plans to serve Him. I’m constantly learning that what God wants is for me to obey and serve in the way He designed me and let Him take care of the rest.
He is in the people changing business, and wants us to use our gifts and trust Him to do what He does best. By the way, several of my “best evers” were just the opposite. I felt good about it. I was funny, relevant, truthful, and Biblically accurate but at the end of the day, it didn’t change lives. Hmmm, best ever or me just using my strengths—which without God equals INADEQUACY!
Lesson learned.
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brent carl
The other day I was sitting on my couch, eating some chips, drinking some soda, and watching re-runs of Saturday Night Live. One of my all-time favorite sketches came on, one with the late Chris Farley. It was the sketch where he is the host of his own show called the “Chris Farley Show.” In the sketch, he interviews famous guests. The only problem is that he is extremely nervous about interviewing them and always asks such obvious questions that you just laugh because it’s so stupid.
For instance, he had Michael Jordan on one of the shows and he asked questions like “Remember that time you played basketball for the Bulls?” Jordan said, “Yeah, I remember that.” And Farley says something like, “You were awesome!” Then another time he had Arnold Schwarzenegger on and said something like, “Remember that time you were in Terminator?” Arnold is like “Yeah, I remember that.” Farley adds, “And remember that time you yelled, ‘Get down?’ That was awesome!”
The dialogue is like that throughout the show, and usually ends up with Farley’s famous line from that sketch, ”Aw, I’m SO STUPID!” Then the guest usually encourages him and says “It’s okay, Chris. Thanks for having me on your show.”
As I watched that show, I laughed and laughed. It reminded me of what it’s like when we try to serve God in our own power. Everything looks good, we say the right things, quote the right scripture, reference the right authors or whatever, but without God’s power doing His thing in people’s lives, we end up like Chris Farley with our hands brushing our hair down over our eyes in disgust saying, “Aw, I’m so stupid!”
I like to call those moments the “worst ever” moments in ministry, and believe me I’ve got plenty!
The thing that has always amazed me though, is that the times when I delivered a message, taught a class, organized a retreat, or did something in ministry that I thought was a “worst ever,” are the ones that people usually point to as being moments that touched their hearts, changed their lives, or at least made them pause and consider what God wanted them to hear.
Why is that? I’m learning that God doesn’t need me to be funny, interesting, captivating or really anything other than obedient and faithful to what He’s called me to do. He’ll do the rest and touch people’s lives in the ways He chooses. That really takes the pressure off, because it’s all about Him and His work, not me and my Skills.
As I sat there and watched SNL, I was reminded of at least four “worst ever” moments in my youth ministry career that God took and, despite me, used in people’s lives. I was saying, “Aw, I’m so stupid, that was awful” afterwards, but God took my ineptitude and used it for His glory. He’s cool like that.
Well, here they are in no particular order. The four “worst ever” moments in my youth ministry career. (At least four that come to mind as I’m writing—there are many more where these came from.)
1. Muscle Relaxer Message: I hurt my back really bad a couple days prior to having to deliver a week’s worth of messages at a youth week. My back was in so much pain that on Saturday and Sunday of that week I was flat out—I couldn’t move. The doctor gave me some muscle relaxers, and told me to take them to alleviate the pain. What he failed to mention was that they alleviate the pain all right, but they also tend to slur your speech, and basically make you appear like your drunk or high. (A key piece of information that would have been helpful.) I took the pills about 30 minutes before speaking and when I opened my mouth to speak, I sounded like I had just downed a bottle of Jack Daniels and stepped onto the stage to deliver God’s Word. ”Hellllooo everuhbuddy, I’m sooo hick-up happy to beeee heeer today.” It was awful! Now I’ve never been drunk or high, but I can imagine that that’s what it felt like, and how I came across. I was happy to get done with my message. At the end I had a bunch of “Farley Moments,” and felt totally inadequate until some students shared how God had used the message to cause them to ponder where their lives were headed. Hmmm, worst ever or God’s power using my inadequacies?
2. 4am Message: I was on the planning committee for an area-wide all-nighter retreat. Why we ever planned the Bible sharing time at 4am is beyond me, but that’s when it was, and I was the speaker. Maybe it was the bowling or the skating or the extreme mini-golf, I’m not totally sure, but whatever it was, the audience was less than alert when it came time for me to deliver God’s Word. Even after three Mountain Dews, two Starbucks, and a Red Bull, I was less than perky as well. It was a disaster—so I thought. Until some students called me later and woke me up to say how God had used the talk to help them answer some questions they had about God’s love. Hmmm, worst ever or God using my inadequacies?
3. Don't Worry Be Prayerful: It was 1989; Bobby McFerrin had a huge hit (albeit a one hit wonder) with “Don’t Worry be Happy.” As I was preparing to speak at a camp in Michigan, I found myself in Philippians reading the passage that says: “Don’t be anxious about anything but in all things through prayer bring your requests to God.” I wanted to be hip, relevant, encouraging, and Biblically accurate—all at the same time. So I did what any acid washed jeans and mullet wearing youth leader in the 80’s would do—I lip synched “Don’t Worry Be Happy”, and then turned the volume down just in time to say “Be Prayerful” instead of be happy. Ughhh, what a humiliation that was. Kids were laughing, joking, and whistling the tune for the next week at camp. I thought it was a bomb, until, you guessed it—”Pastor Brent, I’ve been thinking a lot about what you’ve been speaking about, and I need to give my life to God and His ways instead of my ways.” Hmmm, worst ever or God using my inadequacies?
4. Scum Bag Message: Yep, all I can say is I said something like this, ”To God, our sin is like scum, He hates it. He can’t stand it. He provided a way for us to get rid of it thorough His Son, Jesus. Jesus came to save a scum bag like me, and He came to save a scum bag like you!” A few of the kids didn’t take too kindly to being called a scum bag (especially when I pointed at them when I said it. It wasn’t on purpose, it was the Holy Spirit guiding my pointer—ha, ha). They left the service as I was speaking, and were very upset. Their mom called me the next week and chewed me out. Long story short, I explained what I meant and how I didn’t point them out in particular. They started coming to my youth group, and got plugged in big time and became some of my core student leaders. As time went by, they even become adult youth leaders as well. Hmmm, worst ever or God using my inadequacies?
Those are just a few examples of what God can do with our meager attempts as well as our best-laid plans to serve Him. I’m constantly learning that what God wants is for me to obey and serve in the way He designed me and let Him take care of the rest.
He is in the people changing business, and wants us to use our gifts and trust Him to do what He does best. By the way, several of my “best evers” were just the opposite. I felt good about it. I was funny, relevant, truthful, and Biblically accurate but at the end of the day, it didn’t change lives. Hmmm, best ever or me just using my strengths—which without God equals INADEQUACY!
Lesson learned.
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